Kevin and My Update.

Well, for the most part there is no talking with us. He chooses to write notes instead and then decides to tell me (in a note) no more notes, I don't have the balls to talk to him. In that note he did happen to mention that he didn't want Ashley, i could have her. If this situation goes to a divorce then i do have it in writing and it will make it hard for him to argue about anything. The main problem that we have is that he gets mad and explodes with anger and then he decides he is OK and everyone else is suppose to be the same with NO conversation about it. Most of the time when he gets mad he can't even tell me what he is mad at but expects me to apologize for what it was that I did or said that made him mad. He has decided that he is taking all the money and if I am needing it for bills I have to show him the bill and he will give that exact amount only. No bill, no money. When it comes to food I am to make a list and buy the groceries with my checking account and then take him the receipt and he will give me that exact amount only. The problem that i have with this is that he is the bread winner so to speak and as that, he is working to provide for the things that the family needs. I have to ask for money to pay for those needs and he gets to keep the rest of the money. He said that he averaged it out that he works for only $1.25 a day. He has previously asked for $20.00 out of each check. OK, what do I work for a day, nothing, not even a thank you. He said that he feels like he has to beg for money out of his check, even though he was the one that said $20.00 and said no to me when I would try to give him more. The difference in what he is doing and what I was doing when it comes to the money thing is that I spent money on all the needs and nothing for myself. I will have to "beg" for the needed things and what he was asking for money for was for his own self, not needs. He will get the remaining money out of his check like I said above and I am left with nothing in my account for the needs. Maybe it is me but I don't see this as being a fair arrangement and it is hard for me to go along with it and not have issues with it. Any advice on this from anyone??

There are other things that are bad but they are more personal and I choose not to post them for all to see. He has suggested counseling but I don't see how that will work since he insists that problems are just to be ignored and not worked out. His words on that subject are that I am suppose to ignore all of the anger that he gives to me or others when he is over being mad and not ask questions. Problems don't need to be worked out, love is all that is needed in a relationship. If problems don't need to be worked out them what would be the point in going to seek counseling??

He said that if there are other people home then we will not talk about the problems. He has been off the last two days but rather come and try to finish talking to me has spent his days with Jonathan. I don't think he wants to have a conversation about the problems and just expects them to go away! When he is around I have noticed that Rebecca will not move at all. She can be moving around like crazy and then he walks into the room and it is as if she isn't even in my belly, I feel nothing. Ashley doesn't say much to him anymore and he doesn't speak to her very often either. All in all it is a stressful situation and I am not sure what direction to go at this point.